What if?

What if?   You made choices from a place of a potential for love, instead of a potential for hurt?   What could happen then?   Take a moment…   Your answer will be illuminating.     Send me an email and share your answers, A-HA’s and revelations, or simply …

Are you drinking your own poison?

Have you ever heard that saying? Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. ‘We drink the poison our minds pour for us and wonder why we get so sick.’ ~ Atticus Pain has never been a good vintage. When we hang onto old relationship …

Your Desire For Love Isn’t Weakness, It’s Wisdom.

There’s this weird societal idea  that if you desire love, or are looking for it, that somehow makes you… weak… needy… or even desperate. I see it often in how people view dating, like it’s a necessary evil… ‘Don’t tell people how we met (online) because, you know – that’s …

Boundaries, who’s upholding your borders?

I have learned that TRUST, or the lack of it, in us and others can be one of the biggest stumbling blocks for many when dating. It shows up first, in our relationship with ourselves (as does everything by the way – damn it). Symptoms can include a lack of …

Self Consciously, Conscious

So, right this minute I am sitting on a sun drenched patio in Yaletown, Vancouver BC. I’m not here to relax, on the contrary I have put myself in the eye of the ‘look at me’ storm. No, I’m not doing the jig and asking for spare change, instead I’m …

Be who you need.

Be who you need. Seems simple enough, but so often we abandon ourselves when it comes to matters of the heart, and then look to others to fill the vacancy. We need to have our back. Fill our own cup. Be our very own best friend. Make choices from a place …

Only You Can Make It True

You Can Only Make It Truth

Limiting beliefs are lies that only you can make true. Ask yourself what your beliefs are surrounding dating. Then, really honestly answer, and consider this – a belief is only a thought that you have thought, over, and over again, until you believe it to be truth. Frustrated in your romantic life? …

Take Stock

Take stock

Take stock. The relationships you have around you are a reflection of the one you have with yourself. This week I’ve been having some tough love conversations about dating. How often individuals are throwing themselves into the dating fray without doing their own heartwork due diligence, first. This is an ongoing …

Running Interference, how to avoid getting in your own way.

Are you running interference in your love life? It’s a question worth pondering. Recently I was having a conversation with someone about the new person they had just met. I simply asked, ‘What did you think of him?’ And the resulting answer was a laundry list of why he would …

Dating Pause, how to stay on love’s path.

A Dating Pause: action – A moment taken before making a decision while dating, to see if your choice is in alignment with your relationship goals, and your self worth. Example ~ Janet took a dating pause before accepting to go on a date with Jack, and in doing so, realized that he …